You know how people are alwasy saying "Accept yourseslf" and stuff like that? I think that is horrible advice. I believe that the minute we start to be complacent with who we are is the minute we stop growing. When we become complacent, we are further feeding the emotion we are addicted to, whether it be the "victim", being in control, and so on. We need to learn how to accept who we are now, but make an effort to change that person, not become complacent in our old selves.