I can't speak to all your troubles, but the last bit re: your password to log in to your iPad:
Unless your house is filled with unsavory types, there's probably not any danger in writing your password down where you can look at it quickly.
Have you considered writing it on a piece of painter's tape or masking tape you have stuck to your device so it's handy at a glance?
If you're worried, then don't. But it's a thought, depending on whether it works at your security level to do that.
Good luck with the other bit. I can't help cause I've never used it.
"Not a bit is wasted and the best is yet to come. . ." -- remembered from a dream